Monday, June 16, 2014

On the noises I hear

This is a country full of noise! We are a country full of yelling neighbors, screaming children, loud bachata music, crazy dembow songs, vegetable trucks and appliance repairmen announcing their arrival with a megaphone from miles away, zinc roofs giving away when the rain arrives, etc etc. So much of life can be given away just by listening here. Just like an owl, I now have unbelievably sharp hearing. I am proud of myself because now, without having to see a thing, I can pick up on context sound clues and understand what is going on in the busy, crazy world around me.

The top ten mysteries I can solve purely by listening:

1) When my host dad arrives: I now know the sound of my dad’s motorcycle out of all the motorcycles in town. Enriquito’s red motorcycle has a low rumble that sounds almost like my neighbor Danilo’s but it’s not quite as deep, and then he has this screechy set of rusty brakes that gives it away when he comes to a full stop outside out house.

2) When someone comes into my house: We have a cute red gate in the front of our house and it makes a very distinct low “grrrrrrrrrr” sound whenever someone opens it. So if I’m in the kitchen and someone enters, I will know to be ready for them with a fresh pot of coffee or some juice to welcome them with.

3) When the electricity comes on: We have a generator in my house so when I first arrived, I had no idea when we were using the generator or electricity from the street. But as my hearing has advanced, I can walk into any house now and know whether the electricity if coming from the street or the generator. Context clues give it away...whether or not there’s a low rumble from the refrigerator, if there is the energetic buzz from a nearby streetlamp, or if there’s a fan on in the house, then you know there’s street electricity.

4) When the electricity goes off: There’s a pretty obvious first sign when the lights go off because everyone on the block screams some combination of swear words, “¡coño, mierda, cónchole, diache!” But if I am not around for the lights going off, I still know upon entering a house because the ambiance is quieter, there are no frivolous appliances being used, the televisions and stereos are off, and if lights are on, they are a softer color because the generator batteries aren’t as strong as street electricity.  

5) When church starts: The evangelical church on the corner of my block starts every night of the week with a few quieter “Te quiero Jesús” songs and it builds gradually during the sermon to become a full on Jesus-praising rock concert. I always know what stage of the service they are in from the intensity of the songs they sing. It’s always such a relief when that very last “Hallelujah” plays at an eardrum-busting decibel and I know it’s only a matter of minutes until church ends for the night. 

6) When my tank of water is full: I can only fill up my water tank when the electricity is on so that I can turn on a pump that sends water from a huge storage tank below up to my small tank above. When I do, it quietly runs through the pipes until it fills my small tank and then starts spilling over the side unless I turn it off first. So I have learned to be aware of where the water is in relation to the tank’s top. When I hear a particularly deep and powerful final gurgle of water, I know its almost at the top so I run downstairs, turn off the pump and hope that none spilled down the side of the roof and into my small bathroom window.

7) When my host mom comes and goes: Much like I know the sound of my dad’s motorcycle, I also know the distinct sound of my host mom’s moped. I know when she leaves to drop my niece off at school in the morning, heads out to inject my grandma with a shot of insulin, sends my brother to buy chicken from the local butcher, and her other comings and goings. I can be upstairs in my room across the street and if I need to talk to her, I just wait until I hear the creaky “vroom vroom” of her nice red moped and I can head downstairs without even having to look out the window and check. 

8) When someone is speaking English up to ¼ mile away: I can pick English out of a very large crowd these days. It’s a sharp piercing sound that I can, get this...understand! My best friend, Gray, is currently home in North Carolina and the first thing she said to me was, “Bea, English is so overwhelming! Also, it took me a full 24 hours to stop thinking in Spanish.” I replied, “How freaking cool is that, though? We are living and functioning in another language and that, my friend, is a beautiful thing!”

9) When someone thinks I don’t speak Spanish:
When I enter a guagua (public bus) and people are unsure whether or not I, a rubia, speaks Spanish or not, they tend to speak in lower octaves and ask in whispers what a rubia is doing here or if they can charge me extra. I turn around to the cobrador and tell him, “Sí, hablo español y no, no puede hacerme trampa” or “Yes, I speak Spanish and no, you cannot cheat me.” They usually straighten up, stick out their hand asking for my fare and return me the correct amount of change.

10) When my mom wants me to come down from my lair and hang out with her: In my host family’s house, there is a separate entrance for my own solitary lair upstairs. Thankfully, my family gives me all the privacy I could ever want and they rarely venture up the stairs to my woman-cave. When my mom wants me to come eat some new invention she’s cooked, run an errand for her, fix her cellphone, translate some medicine bottle in English, or just hang out with her, she will send me a very distinct whistle. It starts from the left side of my room, where she is in the kitchen below me. If I don’t hear it there, she’ll move to the living room window and give it another go as it resonates in my room on the right side. Even though it makes me feel like a dog, it sure gets the job done!

Along with all these mysteries I’ve solved, non-verbal noise is useful for so many other things here. Distinct calls are used to sell bleach, vegetables and fridge parts from roaming trucks, announce a political candidates arrival during election cycles, rally the people for a funeral, have a birthday party, get a neighbors’ attention, wake someone up, ask for a favor without uttering a word or getting off your motorcycle. All it takes to communicate here is a good horn that beeps, a mouth that whistles, and enough time spent listening to daily life here in the good ol’ Dominican Republic.

And in the time spent writing this blog post, the lights have come on twice and gone off once, I’ve filled my tank with water, my dad has left and returned three times, my host brother made rice for lunch, my host mom bought bleach, three pounds of carrots, a pound of onions and 24 eggs...all without me leaving my makeshift desk or looking out the window. My ears told me everything I could ever need to know to keep tabs on my neighborhood. What an invaluable skill!

Sending a “beep beep” to y'all! 


Tuesday, June 10, 2014

On a week in the life!


What does a week in the life look like? Here are the highlights!

May 25th was Mother's Day in the DR and our women's group went all out, with raffle prizes donated from businesses in town, a skit, poem reading and a cake! 

Women singing a hymn at our Mother's Day celebration. Very moving.
My 8th graders had a beautiful graduation ceremony and even honored me as their favorite English teacher! Cute!
We made a nice big life size representation of the male bits with my friend Essaul from my youth group Escojo Mi Vida. Just some fun activities to learn about the reproductive system.
Last night I got puked on my this little devil child, Haydee. She was giggling so innocently while she did it so I can't even be that mad. Good thing we had water in the tank so I could shower immediately after! 

Time spent just hanging out with some of my favorite neighborhood kids. 
Stopping in to deliver some reading glasses to my favorite colmado owner, Negra. She has a hard time reading the labels and my real mom sent down some glasses that I gave to a very happy Negra!

Roy came to visit! A very relaxing and wonderful few days of R&R!


And that my friends, is just another week in the life of a health volunteer in the Dominican Republic. Couldn't be more different than cubicle life!

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

On health myths

Happy Tuesday! 

All is well here in Manzanillo, gracias a Dios! I am ready for a busy summer. Schools out now and I am determined not to let my kids slack in attendance even though the beach is calling and the sun is shining (a little too much if you ask me, it's a solid 88 degrees here everyday and every night and it's getting harder and harder to sleep at night)! 

As my women and youth groups advance in our education course, the topics we cover become more advanced, there are often more details to cover, more misinformation to correct and more myths to debunk. This week, here’s a list of my top myths I’ve heard in my women and youth groups. Play along and see if you need to be in my education group!

Health Myth Quiz: True or False

1. President Obama sent the newest mosquito-born-illness, chikungunya (starts with an awful fever, turns into body pains and ends in a gruesome rash), here as a biological weapon to kill inferior races.
FALSE: I had to patiently explain to my host brother that, no, Obama did not create the chikungunya virus, and no, he is not trying to kill Dominicans. Another relative said the Haitians sent it over, but again I reminded them that the hospital is full of both Haitians and Dominicans, we are suffering just the same. Which led them full circle, “So like I said, Bea, it is Obama’s fault.”

2. You can’t get pregnant if you pee after having sex.
FALSE: My youth were really confused by this one. “You mean it doesn’t work like that? I can still get pregnant?” I looked at my youth and said, “Now kids, let’s review the lady and man bits once again.” After examining my beautifully drawn lady bits, they understood that the “pee hole” and the vagina are in two different places. Ahhhh...who knew?

3. If women have diarrhea, they shouldn’t breastfeed.
FALSE: “Pero, Bea, hace daño al niño!” No, my doña friends, having diarrhea does not to damage to your child. You should continue to breastfeed just the same. And as I’ve repeated more than a thousand times by now, “Dar el seno solo seno!” or “Give the breast, only the breast!” And on a positive note, my cousin just gave birth to a cute baby boy and she told me, “Bea, I promise to breast feed him!” YAY! One point for Bea! 

4. The moon is bigger than the sun.
FALSE: My host brother’s logic for this was that when you look at the moon it appears bigger than when you look at the sun. Again, after a little astronomy lesson and help from my favorite friend Google, we debunked this myth.

5. Real cows milk boiled with garlic cures brain cancer.
Well, who knows? From WebMd: “Garlic is used for many conditions related to the heart and blood system. These conditions include high blood pressurehigh cholesterol, coronary heart disease, and heart attack. Garlic actually may be effective in slowing the development of atherosclerosis and seems to be able to modestly reduce blood pressure. Some people use garlic to prevent colon cancerrectal cancerstomach cancerbreast cancerprostate cancer, and lung cancer. It is also used to treat prostate cancer and bladder cancer.” So who am I to judge these homeopathic remedies? But it is also my job to make sure they get themselves checked out at a health clinic!  

6. HIV is transmitted through mosquito bites, hugging and handshakes. 
FALSE: HIV is transmitted through four substances and is present in one other. 1) Semen (including pre-ejaculate), 2) Breast milk, 3) Vaginal fluids, and 4) Blood and is present in saliva (but technically you would have to drink five gallons to acquire the virus). Additionally, as the acronym would suggest, it is a virus that is only transmitted from human to human: Human Immunodeficiency Virus.

7. Vicks Vapor Rub will cure anything.
TRUE: What, you didn’t know? From broken ankle to mosquito bites to stuffed up noses, Vicks will do the trick! To be used liberally much like Windex is used in My Big Fat Greek Wedding.

It makes sense that many Dominican have these misconceptions. They come from speculation and a lack of education. As I’ve mentioned just a few times, Dominicans have quite a lot of time to sit around speculating and many do not receive formal education. These myths illustrate the importance of the work I am here to do. Education! 

There are some days when I get down on myself and feel like I have nothing to teach them, but then its comments such as the above that remind me why my work is so important. Let’s not continue to allow Dominican teenagers to become pregnant solely because they think they can have sex standing up and not get pregnant. And let’s help Dominican doñas go to the medical clinic when they have throbbing headaches and not just stay at home and drink garlic milk. There are interventions and education that I can and should provide within the cultural context here. Respecting a culture and improving lives and health outcomes do not have to be at odds with one another.

Oh, and I sure hope you got 100 percent on the “Health Myths Quiz” otherwise book your ticket down here and let's get you in my health groups!

Besos y abrazos, 
Bea 

Sunday, June 1, 2014

On the simple joys

¡Buenas tardes!

I was reading my best friend’s best friend’s blog the other day (thegallivant.net) and it’s all about her take on living in Pensacola, Florida as a newlywed to a Navy pilot in training. I love following her blog because she’s a great writer, so elegant and way cooler than me. I find that I am taken into an alternate and beautiful universe when I read her blog and this week she had a post about the simple joys. So, taking a page from her book (or blog if you will), I shall share compilation of simple treasures. It's been a great week and I'm simply living, working and loving, feeling more fulfilled than I ever have here before! 

The Simple Joys

Caribbean sunrises.

Waking up excited.

Morning runs on the beach.

Good coffee.

Great coffee.

An afternoon spent reading.

Movies during rain storms.

Sharing a cold, cold beer with a fellow American.

Spending a day on the beach.

Drinking guava juice on my grandma’s porch.

A really good story.

My mom.

My bike decorated with flowers.

Being my own boss.

Internet that works.

Living in the Dominican Republic.

Riding on the back of a motorcycle.
  
A cockroach-free night.

People who know where Idaho is.

Yoga.

Being clean.

Taking time for myself.

Sharing time with neighbors.

Peanut butter.

Finding air conditioning.

Speaking another language.

Feeling fulfilled.

Caribbean sunsets. 

It always helps to remember the best moments, the things that keep me here when the going gets tough and finding the beauty in the chaos. I have come to seriously crave, love, cherish and admire the simple joys. Hope you can find some today, too. Oh and happy birthday Momma Taina, love you!

Until soon,
Bea 


Good morning!
My lifesaver!
Ahhhh, a rainy day!
What an expansive collection!
And a beautiful sunset!

Thursday, May 29, 2014

On "The Grind"

This week, I was giving a presentation on chronic and respiratory illnesses including malaria, dengue, the common flu, and pneumonia. A major “treatment” of these illnesses is to rest, drink lots of fluids, eat a balanced diet, and maintain hygiene. As I am telling the women that they need to rest when they are sick, the looked at me like I was crazy. “Bea mi’ja, quien tiene tiempo pa’ descansar?” “Bea, who has time to rest?” I looked a little shocked and I continued. “I know you are all very busy caring for your families, but you can’t help your children if you prepare their food with a cough and poor hygiene. You also can’t help your children if you are too weak to get them ready for school.”

That afternoon, I realized that I had answered them rather curtly because in the back of my mind I was thinking, “I just got off the phone with my 23-year old best friend who works from 8am to 10pm many days a month and probably couldn’t tell you what “work-life balance” even means anymore. Another friend loves her job in “The City” but is always putting in extra hours on the polio or malaria account she works on regularly leaving the office at 7pm or later. And another is has been traveling all over the country for work and can’t seem to catch a much-needed break from the “grind.” But I should have withheld my judgment because here, even in a collectivist country, people are exhausted. Not to mention the added element of extreme heat they face while hand-scrubbing laundry, cooking outside on a three-stone fire, and running around after their kids. Life here is difficult, too, just in very different ways.

This is not a capitalist country, it’s a country where most people work in the informal sector, selling clothes or beauty products from magazines, painting nails for a profit on their front porch, asking neighbors for support, or finding American men to support them and their families. But even here, they perceive that they can’t catch a break. The capitalism grind we are so used to in America leaves us little time for rest, but so too, does the informal work sector that many Dominicans rely on. We all need a break and time to rest or these chronic illnesses I’m trying hard to prevent are gonna eat us all up!



Thursday, May 15, 2014

On quotes that keep me going


Quotes that get me through the hardest of days:

Caminante, no hay camino, se hace camino al andar.

“When each day is the same as the next, it’s because people fail to recognize the good things that happen in their lives every day that the sun rises.”

After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn’t mean leaning
and company doesn’t always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and eyes ahead
with the grace of a woman,
not the grief of a child.
And you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so plan your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn...
-Veronica Shoffstalf

All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost,
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
-FotR

“Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.”
- Barbara De Angelis


People will forget what you said. Peoople will forget what you did. People will never forget what you did. 
- Maya Angelou

Communities and countries and ultimately the world are only as strong as the health of their women.
- Michelle Obama

What would I do if I weren't afraid?

The only calibration that counts is:
how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught or humiliated. 
And the only thing people regret is:
that they didn't live boldly enough, that they didn't invest enough heart, didn't live enough. Nothing else really counts at all.
      
To live for only some future goal is shallow. 
It is the sides of the mountain that sustain life, not the top.


Monday, May 5, 2014

On bicycles and blue blooded bugs

Last week I bought a bike and it changed my life!




A volunteer couple who lived in a town called La Vigia only 23km away from me finished their service and left for America last week. We had talked about me buying the wife’s bike a while back but I had forgotten about it until she called to ask if I was still interested in the transaction. She promised me a few other surprises too, if I made the journey to their house on the Wednesday that they were leaving. So after a nice early morning run, I made my way by bus to their small little campo. I got off the bus and walked a nice and easy 4km from the into their town and cute two bedroom shack. They were busy packing up and getting ready to leave so I scored big! Richard and Cynthia outfitted me with snorkeling gear (two sets if you wanna come down and try one out!), a beach towel, a bike pump and repair kit, and a hotdog and ramen noodle/cabbage salad lunch. It was great to see their site and of course to get myself a bike and I’m only upset that I didn’t visit them earlier in my service, they were so close!

Around 1:30pm (prime sun time), I got on the bike and made my way back home, up a few hills and through a few towns. I made it to the town I work in on Wednesdays, Copey, and stopped at my favorite doñas house there for juice and a shower. When I rolled up to her gate sweaty and with a bike in tow, she exclaimed, “Bea, where’d that come from?” and I replied, “I rode it here from La Vigia!” They couldn’t believe I had actually ridden and not just strapped it to the front of a bus. They were equally as surprised to see that I hadn’t die in the heat or on the highway. My doña/grandma couldn’t stop telling all her neighbors what I had just done and I felt like a celebrity! It was a glorious day!

Now that I have my bike, it makes traveling around my town, visiting doñas and running errands so much easier. I don’t know how I survived so long without one. It even has a basket in the front for my loose ends and a basket on the back for carrying heavy loads. Well worth the expensive ($60) investment.

So last week was great. But as I’ve learned in Peace Corps, all good things come to an end (or so sang Nelly Furtado) and here's why: 

1. My bike got a flat.
Two muchachos were riding my new bike (without permission!) and they took it down to the beach where it got a flat tire...in the back wheel. EUGH! I called my uncle in Australia and he said, “Damn that’s a bitch to fix” and patiently described the process to me. I listened fully hoping I would be able to fix my own bike, but alas, after a challenging few minutes staring at the retro bike and it’s confusing chain parts, I called upon a passing neighborhood kid and sent him to fix it at the local tire shop.

2. I had a bug infestation.
It started raining last night and I ran into my room only to find thousands upon thousands of tiny little bugs flying around my room. I spent the better part of an hour killing them while skyping my bffl Emily. I’m sure she thinks I’m nuts. Our conversation was constantly interjected with exclamations like “ewww gross they’re spurting blue blood” or “ahhhh thousands” or “my floor looks like it has bug dandruff.” It was a mess to clean up this and I still twitch thinking about the bugs that landed on me constantly throughout that sleepless night.  

3. My feet are messed up.  
I’m pretty sure my feet will never be the same after this. I have and will forever have ingrown toenails, a wart and blisters on the bottom of my feet, a fungus on my left big toe (again!), and a painful to the touch third right toe. And then there’s the fact that they’re constantly dirty, sandy, itchy and cracking that accompanies the aforementioned problems. But...at least my host mom paints them with designs every two weeks so it’s not as obvious how nasty these little buggers are. Nothing like a beautiful pink and blue flower covering up a nasty ingrown!

Upon reflection, as I told a volunteer friend, I’m not being a very good PCV if the things that bother me most are the bugs, flat tires, gross feet and variables in projects I can't control. After all, this is what I signed up for, right? So I told myself to buck up, let myself miss how easy things are in America (sometimes), get over it and remember how insignificant these problems actually are. And I’m putting back on my motivation hat and charging full speed ahead this week!

Post Panama: Lesson 1

It’s been 2 months and 13 days since I closed my Peace Corps service. The experts call this the “reintegration” phase and remind us that i...