Showing posts with label celebration. Show all posts
Showing posts with label celebration. Show all posts

Sunday, July 27, 2014

On gastronomy and gal pals

¡Uepa!

Reflecting upon the last couple of weeks, I am pleased to say that I’ve been well fed. Maybe it’s the summer heat that makes doñas want to whip me up some fried plantains every time I pass by, or perhaps they believe my jean shorts that haven’t been washed in weeks make me look thin because they’re don’t stick to me like lycra anymore, because good golly, my community has been taking care of me. And because I’ve been sharing so many meals with doñas, I’ve been doing quite a bit of compartir, a Spanish verb that means “to share.” The concept of compartir certainly applies to sharing food, but more so, it means to share each other’s company. Compartir can mean anything from drinking coffee with a neighbor, sitting in plastic chairs on the street for hours and sending children to buy bread and mayonnaise at the closest colmado, or making a huge vat of espagettis with sweetened-condensed milk to bring to the beach with friends on a Sunday afternoon (and damn is that spaghetti good stuffed in the middle of a white bread sandwich).

Anyhow, with my two best friends Kris and Emily visiting from America, I was determined to show them the true spirit of compartir. In preparation, coveted items were requested weeks in advance so that they would fully experience the reciprocity of compartir. They filled suitcases with Ghirardelli brownie mix, bags of nail polish, coloring books and crayons, Crystal Light juice packets, Sour Patch Kids and every kind of nut Trader Joes carries. We were fully prepared for what I fondly refer to as “The Gastronomic Compartir Tour of Manzanillo.”

Doña food: crab, fried chicken, moro and tostones
Day 1: The adventures of Sambumba

I remember the first time I ever ate sambumba as clearly as I remember learning to read an analog clock. It was a moment of beautiful clarity in which I realized my life had changed for the better. My encounter with sambumba happened one scorching hot afternoon in April and my momma Luisa came into the house with a mischievous grin. “¿Qué fue? What happened?” I asked. “Alida just gave me two pounds of chuleta (lamb chop) and it’s worth $200 pesos so we’re making sambumba” I just stared and tried to repeat the word. Was it samboobies, sambooyah, kombucha, samwhaddya, samyaya? I had no idea but I went with it. “Okay,” I said, “Get at me, sambumba!” An hour later, we were eating a delicious bowl of bean stew with plantains,auyuama (pumpkin), salami, sausage and lamb chop over steaming white rice. Mmmmmm, que rico.

Now every day with sambumba is a day when I get to share a special moment with my momma Luisa. She always saves me the biggest bowl if I’m coming home late and we always eat together and catch up on the latest telenovela drama while enjoying my favorite Dominican meal. Because sambumba has many fond memories, I knew upon planning “The Gastronomic Compartir Tour of Manzanillo” for my best friends Emily and Kris, that sambumba would be the first on the menu.

Emily, Kris and I arrived to my humble abode after a long day of traveling and Luisa embraced my BFFs in her classic bear hug and said, “Are you ready for the sambumba?” The girls looked at me skeptical but sat down as they were commanded to and we served them up a piping hot cauldron of sambumba. We proceeded to enjoy our sambumba with frequent interruptions from Luisa asking “How is it? Do you like it? Do you love it? Do you want more? Eat eat!”

Success!

Day 2: Can’t stop, wont stop!

Day Two started with mashed up pumpkin with some scrambled eggs on top, generously prepared by my host brother Dawin. I’m pretty sure he had a crush on both Emily and Kris, and was more than willing to scramble up their eggs when I asked at an ungodly early hour (for him). We had a few grecas worth of coffee and set out on our way for the biggest and toughest day of the tour. First stop was guava juice and (an offer of potatoes, rice and beans that we politely declined) with Tita. We chatted about life in America and how thankful Tita was for the wrinkle cream Emily generously brought her from the Promised Land. We then headed to Mama Julia’s where the tour really ramped up.

I spend every Saturday afternoon with Mama Julia as she is the best story teller in town. She’s always got a mango, coconut or guava to share and is never without a story and a good laugh. Mama Julia remarks that I was sent to her at the perfect time, just when her daughter moved their whole family to New York and she was missing someone to love like her own. “God works in mysterious ways mi’ja,” She’ll tell me. “God knew that I needed a new daughter to love.”  If I had to quantify the amount of food that’s helped us reach this point of love and strong connection, it would be as follows.

- 52 mangos
- 6 coconuts
- 19 nuts that taste like pork
- 192 tostones (twice fried plantains)
- 8 bowls of moro (rice and beans)
- 2 bowls of extra-salt added ramen noodles
- 43 mints from the colmado
- 36 cups of sugar-ed up coffee

Me and my Mama Julia!
So of course Mama Julia’s house was on the list. We arrived and I told her son, Jose, that we would just be stopping in for some coffee. Well, a plate of tostones and fried salami, a bowl of moro, a platter of vegetables, three cups of coffee, one coconut and three mangoes later, we finally left her porch. We head back down the hill to my house where I informed the girls that they’d need to magically make space in their stomachs because it was time for la bandera, rice, beans and chicken at Chichi’s house. Stuffed, happy and two lunches later, we rolled out to my Escojo youth group graduation where cake was served with fried yucca balls, empanadas and quipes, small chicken-stuffed and fried grain balls. The graduation was beautiful and it was a great time to compartir with the jóvenes (youth) from my town. The girls handled it well when I set them to work blowing up balloons, setting up signs, serving the cake and pouring the soda. Their afternoon treat was much deserved.

A cake weighing in at 20 pounds!
And to top of Day Two of the tour, we went to my old host mom Wendy’s house for pastelón, another one of my favorite Dominican dishes. Pastelón is a dish with mashed plantains, meat and cheese very similar in to a shephard’s pie. The whole platter later, I informed the girls that they were officially done eating for the night, unless they wanted leftover cake. A shake of the head from both of them let me know that I’d done a fine job with the agenda on Day Two.

Day 3: Fry everything twice

Yesenia, my women’s leader from the neighboring town of Copey, has been my saving grace. She was the first person I met here that I trusted de una vez (right away). She quickly became my “mother” in Copey and she warmly welcomed me into the family. Now Margot, her mother, is my grandmother and brindars me juice within two minutes of my arrival in her home, every time. When I mentioned that my friends would be visiting, they immediately asked what they could make us for breakfast. Joking, I told them I was putting in a formal request for tostones, fried cheese, fried salami, juice and a platter of fruit. I laughed at the end to hint that I was kidding and we only wanted their company and perhaps a cup of coffee. “Mi’ja,” Yesenia exclaimed, “That sounds perfect! We’ll have the whole thing ready by 9 o’clock.”

Twice fried plantains, cheese and salami. Mmmmm.
Sunday morning rolled around soon enough and we were ushered to their table to enjoy all aforementioned fried goods along with mabi de palo, a delicious kombucha-like juice made from sticks and dried leaves. We gorged ourselves on one too many fried plantains and Yesenia mentioned, “As your student in our women’s Healthy Homes group, I only justify this once! Bea...you should know better.” The guilt set in, but as she said it, I realized just how much confianza (trust) we have with one another. Three months ago, I never would have felt comfortable dictating what she should make for breakfast, let alone invite a clan into her house to eat it all. Upon washing all the grease off our fingers and packing our bags to head out for the beach, I reflected upon how truly amazing my community is. They have adopted me whole-heartedly and I them. We have inside jokes, favorite meals, gossip time, so much more work to accomplish and so many more fried plantains and cups of coffee to compartir.  

Delicious breakfast thanks to Yesenia & Co.

Margot, Me, Emily, Kris and Yesenia!
And so concluded “The Gastronomic Compartir Tour of Manzanillo” and the hours of my friends, doñas and I spent laughing, eating and enjoying friendship cultures apart. 

¡Buen provecho!
Bea

This delicious dinner was a special treat because it included a salad! 
My kids graduated!!! Felicidades! Let them eat cake!

Sunday, December 1, 2013

On Dominican weddings and sex-ed charlas

¡Happy belated Thanksgiving!

I am exhausted. These past two weeks have been nuts, even though I’m supposed to be “taking it easy” here in my community. Not me, no way.

Last weekend started just like any normal weekend, washing my laundry and cleaning my room. I found a grand total of 1 cockroach, 4 spiders, 12 moths, and 1 giant hairball in my closet. Not bad. I hand washed a towel and my sheets (the worst) when we ran out of water and luckily did the rest before the power went out. Old news there, though, when isn’t the power running out?

The real fun started in the afternoon when my town’s annual month-long men’s softball tournament commenced with my team, Pueblo Nuevo battling in it’s first game against rival team Cervivi. The tournament kicked off with a parade down Main Street showing off newly gifted jerseys and tshirts of the four Manzanillera teams sent as recuerdos from relatives in the US. I sported a really cool shirt to wear and stood in the dugout with 75 of my cousins, aunts, friends and host sisters screaming for 3 hours in one of the more shrill pitches I’ve ever heard. It was awesome. Then I darted off to a doñas meeting to teach a lil something about combating violence against women to mark the anniversary of the death of the three Hermanas Mirabal, heroines in this country’s history who fought against the oppressive dictator Trujillo.

Sunday, I woke up bright and early to get my ducks in a row for the wedding of my cousins Jhanna and Macho. I am a picky wedding goer since I organized weddings at Tufts during my undergraduate career (seems oh so long ago) and this one was one of the prettiest things I’ve seen in this country, but I can hardly compare it to an American wedding. Roughly ninety percent of it included the bride and groom taking thousands of pictures in front of a three tier pineapple flavored wedding cake and ten percent of the time mimicking traditions from American weddings. There was the service, with bridesmaids and all, but in the middle of it, a fire broke out in the field behind the church. In true Dominican fashion, the service went on with people mingling in and out, standing up to look at the chaos out back, all the while interrupting the pastor and the vows without a care in the world. Then Jhanna put the ring on Macho’s right hand, oops. From the service, we went to eat an awesome lunch on Styrofoam plates with plastic cutlery and more than enough 2-liter soda in grape, orange and raspberry flavors. A single rose of the bouquet was thrown into a crowd of eager ladies, with kids and babies joining in. Christian Evangelical music was blaring at top notch, yet no dancing and certainly no drinking. All in all, it was beautiful, romantic and the talk of the town.

No one gets “married” as we’ve come to know it in America. There are no fancy weddings, no white dresses, and certainly no banquet style comidas. Why? 1) They’re expensive, ridiculously so by Dominican standards. The whole thing cost around $2,000 which is nothing by our standards, but an absolute luxury for most families here. 2) People think they’re stupid. “He’ll just pega cuernos, he’s going to cheat on her, why are they wasting they’re money?” And sadly, most people haven’t seen many faithful, respectful and honest examples of love or marriage to show them otherwise. Even sadder, it’s almost certain he will pega cuernos. 3) They already love each other and live together, why the need to make it official? This is an argument I can get into, and I certainly had a lot of interesting conversations around the idea and concept of marriage last weekend, and interesting to hear the perspectives of people who like me, do not really believe in marriage.

The beginning of the week passed rapido, from meetings, my community health diagnostic, English classes, a community mapping project, and preparing for World AIDS Day activities.

And then it was Thanksgiving! Talk about a turkey hangover! I haven’t spent a Thanksgiving at home since I was thirteen (sorry mom and pop) and I’ve always spent it merrily with friends. This time was no different. All the volunteers met up in the capital for our very own celebration complete with pecan and pumpkin pie. The American food was a great change of pace from my daily rice and beans, and it felt like the right time to day a few days for rest and relaxation away from Manzanillo (even though the journey was long and I came back more exhausted than when I left!). I love my community with all my heart and the trip away confirmed that. I was so excited to come home and rejuvenated after talking to other Peace Corps Volunteers (PCVs) about their experiences to date. It was useful to share ideas, lament our challenges, and kick it eating turkey. Oh, and I ran a 5k. Won’t even tell you my time because back home, my 14-year old brother beat me in his very own Turkey Trot by over 10 minutes. Embarrassing.

On Saturday, I made the 6-hour trek back home to Manzanillo to arrive by 3pm just in time to devour my rice and beans and head to my doñas meeting for my very first official chat on HIV/AIDS. There was a bigger than normal showing that I was proud of, and I felt really good about the message and suspect it came across. Go me! Next – I made the rounds around town to let it be known I had arrived back to my site so I didn’t have to waste cell phone minutes calling the doñas who insisted I let them know when I’d returned. I made an evening out of it and stopped at for juice, coffee, tostones, and fried potatoes at the houses of Wendy, Mama Julia, Tita, Luisa and Chila, Phew!

And this morning, I woke up early yet again to head to the pueblo of Monti Cristi – a beach town about an hour away for a collaborative workshop in commemoration of World AIDS Day. Along with four other volunteers who have already been here for a year and completed groups of Escojo Mi Vida (the youth health initiative I’ll be working on). Together, we set out to educate sixty youth about condom usage, stigma, HIV prevention, and history of the disease. With my homeboy Domingo, I taught about discrimination and stereotyping of people living with HIV or AIDS. It went super bien if I don’t say so myself. It was really great to have this workshop so close to my site because I was able to see what volunteers a year into their service are capable of. The message definitely resonated with the kids and I am impressed by how professionally the workshop ran. Congrats to Julie, Krista, Yvette and Elana for a productive and inspiring day!

Now, I’m finally home and here to stay for a month at least. I'll be conducting a community health assessment as well as giving charlas about HIV/AIDS, teenage pregnancy, family planning, and nutrition in the high schools and to the doñas. Manzanillo has already started to get rowdy (music blasting until 5am last night) with people coming to visit from the states and people checking out for the rest of 2013. Here we come 2014! 

I’m thankful for all of the wonderful friends and family I have all over the world. I constantly think about how lucky I am to be here, but that doesn’t mean a little nostalgia doesn’t creep in once in a while, especially on Thanksgiving! I am appreciative of you all for allowing me to indulge those memories of home and of our great times together. Miss you and thank you all for being you!

Sending empanadas, warm weather, and many thanks!

Missing all the pesos I spent in the capital, Thanksgiving leftovers, and my family.

Gobble gobble,
Bea 

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

On swearing in

I became a real-live Peace Corps Volunteer this week!

Nom, cake!

Look, a real Volunteer!

My two compinches Chaz and Sofia!

Who are the ladies? We're the ladies!

And then I had to head back to my new site, Manzanillo! 

Me with Licelot, my project partner, and her son Robviel

In front of the border to Haiti in a town called Dajabon

Sunset from the top of Wendy's roof

Another beauty!

My beach with a boat bringing bananas to yall in America

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